Dudley My Love is Gone

[Joyce]

Dudley is gone our best little buddie ever had to be put down today. I never knew how hard that would be. No more dogs for me. Thanks for everthig. Maybe some day I will be able to come back and talk.
Love Joyce

Good by my sweet little:angel:

[Me&DappledDuo]

Oh, Joyce! This is such a shock!

I'm so incredibly sad to hear this news- and I know you must be crushed. Please know that I'm thinking of you, and sincerely sorry that you had to face something so difficult and heartbreaking. We all got such joy out of your beautiful pictures of him- thank you for that!

[blueyezz74]

I am sooo sorry. I said the same thing when we had to put my yorkie down. 5 years later I have a 4 month old doxie that is filling my life with lots of joy. Harley could never replace Ashley but it is still good to have him around!

[Meemoo]

it! :( :crying: :crying: :crying: Joyce, please know that we are all here for you. and that Dudley is a true :angel: We are all SO saddened to hear of this. You are in my thoughts and prayers. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on or to just SCREAM at the unfairness of at all...please feel free to email!

[Schnitzel's Mom]

I am so very sorry to hear about Dudley. :( I will be thinking of you and hope that you will let all of us know if you need anything.

[quavec]

Oh Joyce, our thoughts are prayers are with you. I cannot imagine the heartache you are going through. Thank you for sharing all of the joyous moments of Dudley with us. I will keep you in our prayers and hope that you will soon find some peace during this hard time.

[Tammara]

That's the saddest news of all. So sorry for the loss of your boy. He will be missed by all of us as well.

[loogie]

This is such upsetting news. I loved Dudley and I didn't even know him. Like I had said - he reminded me so much of my Rosco.

Maybe one day you will feel up to letting us know the whole story. As horrible as this may sound - it is actually helpful to me as a dachsie owner to know why things like this happen so that I may tried to prevent them from happening to my own dachsies. Until then I hope you know that we are all thinking of you and some of us (myself included) know your pain.

I lost my Riley one year ago on April 12th suddenly when she was hit by a car right before my eyes. It was the most devastating experience in my life and I know the pain you are feeling right now. She was a month shy of her first birthday.

Please feel free to send me a private message if you need a shoulder to cry on.

Shanie

[Frzframe]

about your loss. Know you are in my thoughts.

[alfina]

I can't believe it! It is so sudden. I am so sorry Joyce!! HUgs to your from all of us here. We are all here for you!

[Rudy's mom - MI]

As I sit here crying, my heart is so broken for your loss. We all loved Dudley, seeing and hearing about him. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please remember that we are here for you!

[yolanda]

and will say a pray for Dudley tonight

[juliette]

Joyce - we are all just devastated by the loss of Dudley! :crying:

Please accept our deepest sympathies as you go through this difficult time. I am POSITIVE that Dudley is at the bridge awaiting you.

All the best,

[carpet gator]

Oh, Joyce, I am so sorry. This is just so shocking and sudden. You must be overwhelmed with grief. I know nothing any of us could say could ever make this any easier for you, but we are all here to help you though this. We will be praying for you.

[isobelsmom]

Oh Joyce, I am so sorry for your loss of Dudley. We all loved seeing him and hearing about him. Know that we are here when you need us and I will light a candle for him tonight. All our love and sympathy.

[onebigmickeyfan]

I am in a total state of shock and completely heartsick. We so loved all Dudley's wonderful pictures. I know your heart is shattered. Please know you are in our hearts and prayers and we are here for you.

[Heidismom]

Please know that we are here for you and mourn Dudley's loss as well! {{{hugs}}} Julia B.

[Mark]

Joyce . . . many of us know your pain because we've lost a furkid too. We are all right here with and for you.

Someday you may want to share your love with another furkid . . . they don't all go away so soon.

[Kim H.]

when I read this post, I couldn't breathe for a minute... I am so sorry. I lost my little boy almost one year ago. There is nothing like that type of pain.

I hope you come back to talk to us again... and I hope you are ready for another little friend some day. Cassie and Angel could never have taken Tristan's place, but I love them so much.

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

Kim

[minicooper]

Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers at this very sad time for you.
Your beloved Dudley is waiting patiently at the Bridge for you.
I am hoping that your happy memories of Dudley will soon erase a little of the pain of losing him.
Take care of yourself.

[TessieMom]

Joyce,
We are so sorry that Dudley had to go to the bridge. I know that he is there with Stinker and all the other dogs who have gone before us and is probably the finest dressed man around. He is free from pain, restored to health, and waiting to see you again.

[Roobyrocks]

This is just heartbreaking... Joyce & family, I am so sorry to hear this terrible news. Please know you are all in our thoughts & prayers tonight.

[samiam]

I can't believe this. I am so sorry:( I hope that you do return to the board............for anything! We lost our Sam very suddenly in 2002. To this day I appriciate the support that I recieved here even though I didn't join here until 1.5 years after I lost her. This is such a shock. Please feel free to come here for comfort for what you are going through. Lots of us here have felt the pain that you are feeling. Please , don't leave us now. We are concerned about you and I am sure that I speak for many here who feel the same!!:angel: To Dudley:angel:

[Mack]

This is just so heartwrenching. You have my condolences.

[Heide]

I could not even breathe when I seen the title of this thread. I am barely able to type.
I AM SO SHOCKED!!
PLEASE.PLEASE know that we love Dudley along with you, we so enjoyed hearing stories and his most beautiful pictures.
This is so sudden and I know how you feel. I lost my dearest Casey fast too.
ALot of us have lost our precious babies.
:crying: :crying:
I had a very hard time dealing with my loss of Casey. I bought a book called copeing with the loss of a loving pet. It helped me alot.
I hope that you will email one of us and talk about it to us. Its so important to talk.
I am here anytime, as well as our other members.
There are many stages you go through emotionally. Please let us help you.
I just sit here crying for you , as I know the pain is so unbearable.
WE LOVE you Joyce
Please let us help you.
I will forever keep Dudley in my heart and know that he is up with my Casey not feeling any pain, or suffering.
While we are left on earth to suffer from the pain, they are now carefree and have nothing but love for us and know that one day we will all be together again.
GIANT (((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS )))))))))))))))))))))))))) to you

[Jennie]

I usually can't even read this forum, being the cry baby that I am. Just the thought of losing my little ones is enough to send be bawling. For some reason, I did open this thread, and just have to share my sorrow with you. As I sit here crying, I can't even imagine the pain you are feeling. My thoughts are with you.

[lena]

I'm so sorry and shocked to hear of your sudden loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Joyce]

I don't know what made me come to the board again so quickly, maybe that I knew so many of you have lost your little loves also, and I was amazed at all the loving & caring post. I don't think I have cried so much in a long time. My poor hubby can hardly stand to be in this quiet house. My neighbors have been coming all day and our family who lives so far away is also broken hearted almost everyone who knew Dudley loved him. Maybe soon I can get together a picture memorial for him. I just can't look at them right now. All I can remember is how sad he looked not being able to walk or move. Please tell me this will go away. I want to remember my little boy who loved to Model for his Mom and a treat. Thanks again for all your help
Love, Joyce

[loogie]

Joyce,

I think you will find that now is when you will need the support of the DBB members more than any other time.

I am so upset about this - I wish I could hug you and let you know how much I care. I know that you just don't know what to do with yourself right now and you feel like the hurting will never stop. It may take a few months where you keep playing the sight over and over in your mind and it will be so unbearable but it will get better.

I don't know if it is an option for you but you might consider cremation. Riley was cremated and now she sits and watches over us every day.

Again - I am so sorry that this has happened.

[willsana]

I wish I could tell you the pain will go away. It will become...easier to deal with as time passes. It will actually become part of the precious memory of Dudley. I know it sounds odd, but embrace the pain and sorrow. It is also part of your life with him. And EVERYTHING is important. When you love someone even the hard things are to be cherished.

So many of us understand how hard this is. We do not know how YOU feel. But we understand. If you need us we are here.

Dudley was a Once in a Lifetime. We are honored that you have shared him with us.

[doxunzX3]

Joyce, everyone has said so much of what I am feeling and thinking. You are in my thoughts and prayers along with the rest of your family. It is such a shock and he was so precious. Just know that as many have said we have gone through the loss of loosing that special doxie love of our lifes. You never will forget him and only time will heal the ache in your heart. But it does help to share with those that understand and care about you as well as will miss those wonderful pics of Dudley. God Bless You and let us know how your doing.

[lotsadox]

Joyce, I am so sorry! I know that you are heartbroken. Please know that we are here for you anytime.

[Patt]

Joyce, this is devasting. Please accept my sincere sympathies for your loss. Know that those we love never leave us, thinking of you at this difficult time. I will light a candle for sweet Dudley.

[Juneysmom]

Joyce, I am so very sorry to hear about Dudley. I know how devastating it is for you. If possible, keep on coming to the board for the support. I enjoyed all of Dudley's pictures and I know that Dudley knows how much he was loved by you and your husband.

[Heide]

ever really go away, it just gets easier with time.
I had Casey cremated and I have a picture of her with her collar and tags, and I wrote a story about her. I have her urn, which is all together with the other items. Every time I look at it I still cry from missing her.
Even though all this time has passed, it still hurts.
But trust me, the pain will ease up with time.
I just feel so sorry for you and your entire family, as Dudley was so very loved, and this is so hard.
Just know that it helps talking about it, when you feel able too. We are all here for you. We are all a family here at DBB and we all hurt along with you.
So please keep coming back and talking to us.
We love you and are thinking of you at this very hard time.

[alfina]

So glad that you came back to us. It does help to have a crying shoulder on. I cried too when I've read your post. We all got to know Dudley through your pictures and stories. And we all loved him too and are grieving with you.

We lost our doberman in 1996 and my dad still takes his favorite cookies to his burial place. They too decided not to have another dog. They have a cat now and he loves my dad so much and follows him like a dog. My dad is convinced that Max ( our doberman) came back to them as a cat.

When anyone gets a dog, we know that their lives are much shorter than ours but we think we will always be together because we love them so much. And when they leave us so sudden, it makes it even more difficult to handle.

[samiam]

The first thing I did this morning was get here and see if you had checked in!! I am very glad and relieved to see that you did. I thought about you all night. As Heide said........We are a kind of family here, we all share a common bond. Any support that you need, I am sure that you can find here somewhere. Again, I was really glad to see that you had came back to us. You will be in my thoughts and alot of others also. Hugs to you and your husband.Please let him know that he is being thought of also. You have my deepest sympathy. I am not just saying that.........I really want you to know that I mean that...........Gala --- I am positive that everyone else here feels the same way.

[doxiediva]

I read the post yesterday and cried while sitting at my desk at work. It's taken me this long to think of how to express my sympathy to you. Unless you've been there, you never know just how heartbreaking it is. It's been years since I lost Sammi, the first dog I ever had, and I still grieve for her! I have her picture on the wall at my house and whenever I look at it, I miss her so much it hurts.

Like others have said, it gets easier to deal with, but you never stop missing them. You and your husband are in my prayers. I know that Dudley will be watching over you now, as you watched over him. He will be your guardian angel :angel:

Healing HUGS from all of us!

Dana

[Meemoo]

you decided to check in with us. I can't even imagine what you are going through Joyce, but we are all here for you. Feel free to vent, cry, or say anything at all! We want to be able to help and comfort you in anyway we can. (((HUGS)))))

[isobelsmom]

Joyce, I lost my first dachsie very suddenly and the shock and trauma took time to ease. I even went to a pet loss support group as I could not grasp that Digger was gone so suddenly. That was in 1997 and I still miss him terribly, but Isobel came into my life and helped to ease the pain of losing Digger. If I hadn't had her I don't know what would have happened. Please talk to us and cry with us as we miss him too and perhaps we can all work through this loss together. Tell your husband he is cared about as well and all of us here have big shoulders. We are family here and when you need something we will do our best to give it to you. Thank you for checking in and know that Dudley is loved by us as are you, dear DBB friend. :angel:

I wish I could wrap you in my arms and rock the pain away...but know that it will ease with time. Talking about it with people you trust and who understand helps the best of all.

[ShewShew]

Joyce, I feel your pain, and would love to be there to comfort you. It brings tears to my eyes and breaks my heart to hear that you lost Dudley. I lost Paige almost 4 years ago (on July 6). Putting her to sleep was the most difficult decision of my life, even harder than deciding to leave my husband. It does get easier, but even after 4 years, I still cry. But now that I have Piper, she makes my world go round. Grieve, then, when it's time, you can visit here again. Perhaps fostering will fill your void, perhaps you'll adopt again. Just know that we're here for you.

[Joyce]

Well guys I'm taking you up on your offer to grieve with my dear sweet friends at the DBB. I hope I don't bring you all down but it does make it a wee easier to talk to you all. Your post have given us so much comfort. My poor husband is really having a bad day today, I have never seen him cry like he has. But, actually I think this may be good for him. He asked me to vacuum the carpets today, as you could see Dudley's paw prints in the carpet. This was the first time in 5 years that I haven't had to fight Dudley off the vacuum. My girlfriend from NJ called (she went with me to get Dudley when we bought him) and we cried and laughed about our little calender boy. Somehow my friends from where I use to work got the news and have been e mailing me I really didn't realize how many peoples life Dudley touched in such a good way. I'll try and be a little more upbeat next time I visit thanks again you really are the best.
Love, Joyce

[Meemoo]

for staying with us! We will get through this together with you. We grieve with you too.

We're here for you--and Dudley is with you too in spirit and will always be in your hearts.

[quavec]

Joyce, you and your husband take all the time that you need. The grieving process is a long slow battle and remember that you have many people around you that will help you through it. Talking things out, writing them down, even screaming or crying will help. As long as you do not try to keep the grief bottled up, you will make it. I am sure Dudley watched you from the bridge as you vacuumed and vowed he would get that thing another time!:angel:

[alfina]

Don't worry Joyce about bringing us down. We are here for you and your husband and that's what friends are for.

[yolanda]

Dear Joyce,

Dudley is not gone from your life he now has a place forever in your heart. Cherish his memory, sure it is hard but things will get better.

Remember we are hear and we care.

Furbaby hugs and kisses to you and your husband.

[nawma]

Joyce and family,

I have been off the board for a few days and was so shocked to see this post today. My heart is breaking with you and yours along with all the DBB. Dudley was truly a special soul and his funny pictures will always remind us of his patience and willingness to please you. What a special little heart:heart: :heart: :heart: he was.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband and we know that Dudley is happy and pain free at the bridge with so many other loved little ones.

[TessieMom]

Dudley has imprinted you with his soul, so he will be with you always. Yes, there will be tears, but there will be smiles as you remember all the things he did. Someday you may choose to imprint another dog with his legacy, but only you will know when that time comes. Until then, take care and know that we are all here for you.

[juliette]

Joyce - let me once again express our deepest sympathies to you and your husband. We know that the days and weeks ahead will be challenging as you grieve the loss of wonderful Dudley.

I think I speak for all of us when I say that we are here for both of you and that we are all thrilled that you have returned. This is a safe, loving and supportive group who loved Dudley - you could easily see the spark of him through your amazingly creative pictures. It was always a joy to open your posts and see his adorable face.

All the best for both of you. Lots of fuzzy kisses from my two as well.

[dutchman]

Joyce I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I have some grief resource links I can send to you if you want. I'll also be going through my lost of grief poems to try and find the right one to post here. My first post was to this forum after I lost my mill mother Aggie. Sharing your feeling with those who understand is a good step in the right direction towards handling your loss.

See if your husband wont consider putting his feelings into words for you to post here. It many times helps just to be able to express how we feel after a loss.

I'm sorry this post is short but work has been **** lately just stealing a few minutes to check the board.

[isobelsmom]

Joyce, wanted to let you know that you don't need to be upbeat for us. Share with us, cry with us and talk to us. If you are mad, sad, angry, or empty....tell us. We won't think less of you and you might feel better being able to vent how you need to. Same thing to your husband. That's what friends are for, and we are your friends.

I'm so glad and relieved that you decided to stay here....I think by all of us grieving with you, you may find peace and fond memories of Dudley and not just the pain of his loss.

Big hugs to you and to your husband!

[ShewShew]

Pass the tissues please. I'm sitting in my cube, bawling my eyes out. I'm glad you stayed Joyce, and tell your husband he has our ears, shoulders and hearts with him, too. Those who have never been loved by a dachsie have no idea what they mean to us. I know Piper will want to send her love to you, with all her dachsie kisses to wipe away your tears. Dudley will be waiting for you on the Rainbow Bridge when you cross, and all our dachsie's that have gone before us, Paige, too, met him at the bridge to chase butterflies in the meadows that await him. He's watching you, and he knows you love and miss him. I have faith that he's happy. I found that after Paige passed that it helped me to write a memorial to her on one of the online Rainbow Bridge sites. It put her life with me, short though it was, into perspective, and made me realize, for the first time in my life, I loved a dog more than anything else on earth, even more than the ones before her.

Please don't try to be "upbeat". Be yourself. We all love you for who you are, and we'll help you through this. I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say, if you ever just need to vent, please email any of us, or PM us. We're here for you, we'll cry with you. Hugz.

[Heide]

We are family here at DBB. We stay together through bad times and good times.
We all are greiving with you and your hubby.
Dont you worry about that vacumm. I am sure he was just up there spitting bullets that he could not attack it, but knew that his loving memory would be with you while you vacummed.:D It will be neat, the wonderful things that you will remember as days go by.
There will be lots of tears and smiles as this time begins to go on.
There will be blame, anger, frustration and pure agony, then there will be lots of love just flowing out as you remember all the wonderful times that you all shared with Dudley.
If you can look for that book. Its worth its weight in gold.
It helped me soo much.
Just remember dear friend, you have a loving family here for you at anytime.
Giant hugs to you and hubby ((((((HUGS))))))

[Kim H.]

there is no timeline... everyone has to heal in their own way and time. Whatever makes you feel better is right.

I understand your husband wanting to vacuum. The first thing I had to do was move all Tristan's toys and bowls and leash - so I knew where they were but they weren't just lying there to remind me he was gone.

The first night, I just wandered around the house talking to him. I think he heard me.:) He was my best friend... and was gone very suddenly like Dudley.

I am very glad you came back - I thought of you several times today. :heart:

[svofcols]

I've also been away for a bit and only catching bits and pieces of different boards. I was sitting here this morning trying to catch up on everyone and was horrified to read your post. I am so very sorry. Words cannot and will not explain the love coming to you nor will they take away all the pain.
Dudley's picture was the very firist one I ever saw in the Brag Book. I can still remember being round eyed and amazed at how gorgeous he was! I will truly miss the wonderful pictures.
Sandi

[jenfer]

Joyce, I am soooooooo sorry to hear this. :(And I am kicking myself for not reading all threads in the forum. My thought with you.
RIP, Sweet Dudley.