1 week

[2blkntans]

It has been one week today that we sent Brutus over. You know I have had dogs all my life, but this one has made me the sadest ever. I start to cry at the drop of a hat. Man, I miss him so much. It feels like I am at a pity party,is this supose to be the grieving part? I hope the sadness goes away soon.

[Jenn]

I am so sorry to hear about Brutus. I know that had to be a tough decision for you to make in order for him to be at peace. You have to grieve in your own way. I don't think there is a "normal" process for that, we are all different, that is part of what makes us human. I normally can't post these kinds of things b/c I start to cry and I'm at work! I'll sit here and think "what if this happened to my Charlie or Is he safe while I'm at work?" "What if mom opens the front door and he runs out in to the road?" I always start to tear up fearing the worst. I'll cry at the drop of a hat when it conerns him. I have already told my boss that if something happens and he has to go to the bridge, then I'll have to take the "5 day loss of a child grieve leave" cuz I just don't think that I will be able to function!! I just don't expect I would be over it in a couple of days and you can't expect yourself to do the same. So you go on and cry, we here understand. That is what is so great about this board. Not everyone understands the love between a doxie and his/her owner but we all here do. OK, I've got to go grab a tissue.

[dutchman]

:hug2: I've been there with time things will improve. Just how long it takes can very. Try to remember the good days and push away the bad memories. We are hear to listen or for you to lean on as needed.

[Mark]

Yes, this is the grieving part and many of us DBBers have been there . . . so we can relate. Eventually the grief and tears will give way to fond, loving memories.

But heck . . . whenever I go back and read our thread in Memorials about Wimpy, I still tear up.

Hang in there . . . we are all here for you.

[Suzanne R]

I've lost 3, in one way or another, and I know how much it hurts. My first beautiful red mini swallowed a pecan, shell and all, and it lodged in her lower intestine. By the time they figured out what the problem was, and two surgeries later, she died, and I only had a $900 vet bill. That was 20 years ago. I've had 3 more since, plus my two newly adopted furkids. It never gets easier when you have to let them go.

Another of mine had cancer in her mouth, another died of old age and kidney problems. I cried my eyes out for weeks after each of them died. Time will heal, and at your own time. Nobody can tell you how long to grieve, because you're the one doing it and everyone is different. Try to think positive thoughts, and let your remaining furkid comfort you, as they often love to do. I am so sorry for your loss!

[SirOliversMom]

It will get easier with time but it's too soon yet. The wound is too fresh. I hope you feel better soon. When you need to talk and share your memories and feelings we'll be here for you.:hug2:

[Schatz's Mom]

Patti, my heart goes out to you. When you lose a human family member you take time to grieve, this is no different. Take the time you need but don't let it consume you. The good memories of your time with Brutus will eventually take away the sadness.

[Joyce]

Patti, I know how you are feeling, so sorry that you have to go through this just know we are all with you. Some days I still get that little pitty feeling when I think about Dudley, but most days his fond memories brings smiles to my face. :hug2:

[jaded2nite]

(((((((Patti)))))))

[zoeysmom]

I'm so sorry you've lost Brutus. Sadly, I'm one of those who knows how it feels to lose a furbaby.

We all grieve differently - there is no right or wrong way. It takes time sometimes a lot of it before the tenderness lessens. I'll say that even now more than a year since my last baby has gone to the bridge I'll still tear up sometimes at unexpected moments.

They are such an important part of our lives, and the emptyness is so big when they're gone that it just takes time.

That probably isn't a lot of comfort right now, other than to know this is all normal. :hug2:

[Marion]

Oh Patti, tons of :hugs1: for you - it is so hard, I myself took a long time to recover when Chewy died... Hang in there, we are thinking of you and it will get easier - soon the happy memories will overwhelm the sad. :bighug: