There's no getting over Casper

[Jude18]

Our baby Casper was the sweetest boy. He passed away on Sept 1, following 2 back surgeries & seizures. We then found out that he had a brain tumor. There was nothing we could do. We think about him daily. I have what I call my "cry time" every morning. I speak to Casper & try & let him know that everything's OK. Linda & I don't speak about him much, the pain is too raw. We absolutely lose it when we talk about our Casper. We hurt deeply, but we still have concern in our hearts for Charlie. He is a boy that needs much love and special guidance. I do believe that "Squirtie"/Casper is smiling down upon him, Casper wants Charlie to be our boy. Thanks to all of you that have given so much love & understanding. Thanks to all for your well wishes.

[maddoxies]

It has only been six weeks. I wore my doggie angel pin for my last baby for atleast that long (on every outfit, every day).

Time will dull the pain, but it will never quite go away. I still shed some tears for the babies I have lost over the years.

I lost my 16 yr old golden on Oct 30, 13 years ago. I still can't "get into" Halloween. I remember answering our door that year with my heart breaking and all the kids asking where the dog was.

We are here for you, :hug2:. Losing a "pet" is the same grief as losing a human family member. You need time to grieve and heal, I found a pet memorial site that helped me. They have an online candle lighting ceremony each week for the babies who have passed. I will try to dig up the link for you. You can submit your pet's name and it will be posted on the weekly Bridge listing and mentioned in the ceremony.

[patty23]

Dont think that alot of us dont know exactly how you feel. The little ones we lost were our babies, our kids. When I lost Cocoa to a back injury, and worst of all I had her put to sleep as I thought she was suffering, I didnt know about this site and any type of recoveries. None were mentioned to me at the vet site either. I cried for over a mo. everyday, and still is not easy for me to think of her. So you see we do understand and share your thoughts. I still tear up now and then when I think of her. My only hope is that I did the right thing and I now know what to do if this should ever happen again. At least some of us are not in the dark thanks to this website. It does get easier as time goes by, one day at a time. We will never forget them and we do have the good times to think about. When I feel sad I try to think of the all the fun times with her and I know she wouldnt want us to be sad. Thats seems to help me alot.

[LaurieE]

Time has a way to lessen the amount of tears we shed for our furbabies. It's been almost 2 years since I had to put Candy down. She had an incurable disease of the central nervous system. Her death hit me especially hard for 2 reasons -- I never had a dog that got sick like that before and my father had died 8 months before. Somewhere in my brain these 2 deaths are intertwined.

My only advice is to concentrate on Charlie right now. In time, you and Linda will be able to talk about Casper and all the things he did that made you smile.

[Meemoo]

A big :hug2::hug2: to you!

[LUVMYGUNNER]

Judy you and Linda gave Casper "EVERY" chance of a great life. Not many people would pay for 2 back surgerys etc. That poor little guy then to get a brain tumor on top of it. It almost doesn't even seem fair that he had to go thru all that. But you guys gave him so much love, he is always with you.

[Suzanne R]

We understand. It was almost 2 years after Tumbleweed went to the Bridge before I could even consider another furchild. Now I know our beloveds over the Bridge want us to give another great home to another furchild as soon as we can, so the "new" one can have as good a life as the one we've lost! We can NEVER replace the one we've lost - but we can find a new love spot for a new furchild. Love is endless, and immeasurable, fortunately. Casper sent Charlie to you, and I guarantee Casper is happy in his place of pure love! I promise - it gets better with time.

[MomToMazzy&More]

I have not been in the position of losing a furbaby yet. I dread the day. I can only imagine how you are feeling & I'm sure only time will ease but never completely take away the pain. So glad you now have Charlie in your life to help you feel love again in a furbaby.:hug2:

[Joyce]

It is indeed a very difficult time loosing a little love. You don't forget your love, but try and focus on the good memories. Dexter did not replace our Dudley but found a new place of his own in our hearts. :hug2:

[Julian&MistyMom]

We understand and we care. :hug2: in friendship and support.

[doxi1myheart]

Pickle has been gone since May, and I still hurt very much over losing her. They say time makes it easier, but I'm not so sure about that. Most of us on here know exactly how you feel. Sending:hug2: your way.

[Jude18]

Thanks everyone. You are all so great. I think the change in weather is getting to me. We found, no sorry, Casper found us on October 30, 1999. The chill in the air brings back that beautiful day to me. I miss him so much. I've had a lot of loss in my life, family, friends, business associates and victims of 9/11, but I can honestly say that nothing, other than the death of my Mom (her birthday was yesterday, yet another reason for my blue mood) has affected me so deeply. I wear Casper's ID tag on a chain around my neck and often find myself holding it. It makes me feel a little bit closer to my baby.

[LUVMYGUNNER]

Did Casper just show up at your door?

[DixieDoodle]

I hope the pain is easing somewhat. We lost our Champ of 16 years on Aug 16th this year. It was UNBEARABLE. I wore the same shirt for about 3 days in a row because it still had his hair on it. Like you, my husband and myself had our cry times each day. It was mainly when I woke up and when I'd lay in bed trying to go to sleep. We would just blurt out to each other "I miss Champ" and then the gut wrenching tears would flow.
The one thing that helped ease our pain was that we got Dixie about a week later. In no way does she replace him, but she helps ease the pain because we have things we have to do now to take care of her.
The other most painful moment was when the vet called and I went to pick up Champ's ashes from her. I put the little tin box he was in in my lap and drove home crying. I'm not quite sure how I made it home. I just kept telling him how much we still love him and miss him and wish this wasn't the last time he would be in my lap. We still haven't decided what to do with his remains. We want to do something special....just can't seem to let go of them.
Please go to the memorial section here and read the post " A letter from Champ". It puts into words what our pups are doing once they are no longer with us.
I understand:hug2:. Peace:hearts:

[LUVMYGUNNER]

Gunner and Petunia will be buried with us if we can do it. Some states let you do this as long as they are cremated.

[doximom]

I feel your pain it has been almost a year since we lost our Tinker Belle what we thought was bladder stones and then going in for what we thought was back surgery only came back to say it was GME. and at only 8 years old and my first baby I still cry. Her ashes are in the entertainment center and her paw prints are tattooed on my chest next to my heart. We rescued Bossco Tee 3 days after losing her and it was the best thing. I know Friday I will be crying rivers! :hug2:to you!

[DoxieCrazy]

:hug2: to you. We lost our sweet "Silly Lilly" on September 26th, three years to the day we brought her home.

I cry for her everyday. I think about her all of the time. I understand your pain. They say time heals all wounds, but I think it just takes longer when they're special, as Casper or Lilly was.

I hope you can find some peace in your memories.