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Dogmother
01-12-2010, 09:17 AM
Yesterday afternoon on Facebook someone posted a Bible passage that in essence said that "our days here on earth are numbered before we even set our foot upon it." For some reason as I read that a feeling of peace swept over me. I still hurt but it is no longer the mind numbing paralyzing feeling I have had the past few days. I go to pick up his ashes at 11:00 today.

I am sure you will remember my posts about Little Dude the downed doxie that I babysat in Oct while his humans had to go out of town to a funeral. I spoke with his dad for a couple hours last night and we shared our grief, pain and lots of tears. That was very helpful also.

Yesterday morning my vet called me when she received the info from the e vet. We talked for awhile and then when she closed the office she came up for awhile and we talked about what happened. She was awesome. Lots of tears on both parts there. Plus she was very impressed with Mira and how well she gets around and what a bossy butt she is now.

Between these three things and Joes post about Pickle yesterday, I have found a semblance of peace, not acceptance yet because his death should not have happened. I do not know if I will ever be able to accept it. I am, however, going to do my level best to see that it never happens to another dog. I will keep you updated on my process in that.

The pain is still with me but I feel I can function a bit better today. I actually slept for for the first time last night since I lost Dex. I miss him like hell and life will never be the same without him. I know there will still be good days and bad days but unlike yesterday, today I know I can get through them.

I want to thank each and every one of you for the love support and many other things that you have done to help me since the onset of this nightmare. I especially want to mention, Betsy, Chrystine, Morgan, Irma, Sarah, and Michelle. What you have done means more to me than you will ever know. Wayne and I both thank you from the bottom of our hearts. Even though they do not come to this site I also need to mention my friends from another doxie site too because they have been on the phone constantly checking up on me and offering love and support.

Now on to some good news. When my friend Dan (Little Dude's dad) heard about Dexters passing on Saturday night, he contacted a family friend that has doxies. He told them about what I did for them with Little Dude, and then what happened to Dexter. The other day Wayne and I both got a cell phone pic of a red pie baby girl. Wayne was smitten instantly. He has been pushing me to get a new furbie to give me a "project" to focus on to help cope with the loss (he knows me well). Yesterday he pushed me really hard to go look at her even though she is 3 hours away. I didn't go yesterday but then Dan sent me a pic of her in my email. When I saw her larger than the teeny cell phone pic I could feel Dex nudging me towards her. The breeders after receiving such high praise of me and then hearing Dexters tragic story offered to drop the price on her by 50%, they said that they couldn't ask for a better home for her. I mentioned this to my friend Mo (from the other doxie site) and she said to give her a day or two because my friends there had been wanting to do something for me and they are thinking of paying the 250 for her for me. The owners also said they would be willing to barter for her as they know from Dan that $$ are tight right now plus they are Montanans and barter is used just as often as cash around here. So I am thinking that we will be having a red pie join our family by the end of the week. My friend Mo said in honor of Dex we could call her D' Extra because she would be D' Extra doxie to help me heal.

Here is her picture.

http://i152.photobucket.com/albums/s184/silverdapplebnt/Piepuppy.jpg

Terri

anniesdoxies
01-12-2010, 09:57 AM
So glad to hear you are feeling better today. As you know I have been following this on Facebook. Little D'extra (love the name) is just the cutest thing! I love the little spot on her tush! I hope everything works out for your and the family, for you certianly deserve some much needed happiness right now. How blessed you are to have such friends who care and love you.
:hug2:

doxiefollies
01-12-2010, 10:39 AM
Awww....she's bea-U-tiful Terri!! :sillylove: She would absolutely keep you vey busy! Losing a precious member of your family is devastating. 2008 was my worst year ever....I lost (2) 17 year old doxies & a 15 year old mix breed that I had since puppies...on top if it all, I lost (2) 5-month old doxie puppies that I actually seen born....they were current on shots but I brought home parvo on my clothes, after dealing with a backyard breeder in getting her to surrender a 4-month old yorki-poo who had deformed back legs and was crippled (they were gonna use him for breeding, since they couldn't sell him)...I did get him, but that parvo I brought home attacked the doxie puppies hearts instead of intestines, they both were hospitalized immediately and my vet was 95% sure they were gonna be fine, but that was before he knew this type was going to the hearts, cuz you rarely see it....he's only seen it once in 20 years. It's so hard, but you have to go forward and love the other furbabies out there that need you....in honor of our beloved furbabies that have passed on.:hearts::hearts: They are not gone forever....we will be reunited with them.:hearts::hearts:
xoxo

patty23
01-12-2010, 10:39 AM
Omgosh, she is so cute, I ve fallen in love with her already. I am so glad you are feeling better, I know after losing our Cocoa how hard it is. Goodluck on getting your baby.:crsfnger: everything will go okay.

red&black
01-12-2010, 10:53 AM
Big hugs to you - we're all here for you. So many of us know what it's like to lose one too young.

And all these puppies posted lately is giving me puppy fever! :)

When Pickle passed, it just so happened that her daddy was going to be a daddy again within weeks. That's how we got our rotten little diva Nellie (and I mean that in the best of ways :) )
Everyone works differently, and with us it was meant that we have another little one to raise. Thank goodness God was good to us and made sure we got a very well behaved little girl, no trouble at all.

ZoeysMommy
01-12-2010, 10:58 AM
Oh Terri, I'm so glad to hear that you're doing a little better. She is adorable. I hope everything goes smoothly.

Suzanne R
01-12-2010, 11:11 AM
Oh, she is so adorable!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts: I think it was meant to be. Everything happens for a reason; I have never doubted that. I'm glad you're feeling somewhat better - the pain will always be there, but will ease with time and dachsie love. You're the best! :cheer:

toby&avi
01-12-2010, 11:13 AM
Terri, I´m glad you´re feeling better. You´ll never forget your beloved baby, and he will be there always. I´m also feeling better, and it helps when you have friends who understand. I´m already thinking of getting another cat, not to fill the huge space in my heart, but to have another little baby to give all my love to; I´m sure that´s the case with you, and I hope little D´extra helps you and Wayne with your pain. I´m only an e-mail away if you ever want to talk. *hugs*.

sollysmom
01-12-2010, 11:32 AM
Terri, I'm glad you are feeling better. I was so sorry to hear about Dex. My internet has been down for about a week, and it took me to just now to get to hearing about Dex. Love the new girlie and I think the name is fitting for her.

aburgstede
01-12-2010, 11:55 AM
Terri;
So happy you're feeling better, you are right, that passage is very meaningful...I think I'm going to print it out & put it in my "loss" folder (I have a folder for lots of things in my adoption file cabinet), I know it will help me someday when I need it or someone else does. I'm glad you're having some peace, it's very true, and you know that he would want you to be at peace, because he loved you so much and you cared for eachother and loved eachother so much, he wouldn't want you to be hurting. (easier said than done, I know). :hearts:

Mary L
01-12-2010, 11:56 AM
Terri, I don't often post, but I see most posts and I am so pleased to hear that you are feeling some better. We lost our Baxter too early too and I know the pain you feel, it never entirely goes away but it eases and I do think it helps to fill the void with another furry addition.

God Bless

pairodachs
01-12-2010, 12:47 PM
Love ya, Ter!! :hearts:

LUVMYGUNNER
01-12-2010, 01:51 PM
AAAWW Terri she is beautiful...:hearts:

Joyce
01-12-2010, 05:27 PM
Oh how darling, another little sweetie to watch grow up. Love the name.

Nathan'smom
01-12-2010, 05:30 PM
She is just sooooo adorable....I do believe your Dex has his paw in this :hearts:

wigglebutt68
01-12-2010, 05:35 PM
Go pick her up!!!!!! My mother said when her doxie Emily died the best thing she ever did was pick up Layla 3 weeks later! She said Layla saved her from going into a severe depression cuz mom was so attached to Emily! D'extra will never replace Dexter in your heart, but she will help heal the hole in your heart! Are you sure you are going to be able to handle a doxie WITHOUT issues? LOL LOL LOL
christine and peanut

Lizzie
01-12-2010, 08:30 PM
What a beautiful baby!I love the name too!There's definately some magic going on here and I'm so happy for you and your family!Can't wait for more pictures!

doxi1myheart
01-12-2010, 09:00 PM
Very glad my post brought you comfort Terri,and even gladder that you are choosing to honor your sweet guy's memory by giving a loving home to that beautiful pupper (what a doll!:hearts:)

Heidi's Pam
01-12-2010, 10:01 PM
:hearts::hearts::hearts: Awww, what a sweet little thing! I am so glad that the pain is starting to ease a bit, and hope that it gets a bit better every day.. I will be :wait::wait: to hear more about your new little one - love her name!

Julian&MistyMom
01-13-2010, 08:18 AM
Terri, it is so good to hear that you have good friends to help you heal. Huge hugs for you.

As for your new, future addition.... :sillylove:

rexndutch
01-13-2010, 01:08 PM
Hi Teri-- I'm glad to hear that you are doing better. Give yourself time, grieving is process. The baby pied girl is beautiful! Keep us posted. Sending lots of healing :rayz::rayz::rayz::rayz: your way!

gunther's mom
01-19-2010, 12:14 AM
OOO Dose Ears.... so very cute.

digdug
01-19-2010, 06:07 AM
Terri,
I am going to try to repost a reply .
the loss of your precious fur baby is heartbreaking.
It is good to hear and see that your heart has Honor him in being strong by sharing his story .
The D'Extra gift that is now present in your loving arms will blossom in many ways.

HUGE HUGS!!